“R U OK?” That's the simple but powerful question that echoed through our Douglas Shire community yesterday, as neighbours, friends, and school kids united to check up on each other, especially those who may be going through a tough time.

Are You Okay Day, celebrated on the second Thursday of September in Australia, is a vital initiative led by public health charity R U OK?. 

It encourages conversations that promote mental well-being and support during challenging times, contributing to suicide prevention by fostering connections and early intervention.

Jenny Bill, Principal Practitioner/Registered Clinical Counsellor at Mossman Port Douglas Counselling Services, emphasised the key message behind this national day. 

“Social connectedness and positive help-seeking can significantly assist people in crisis, and it’s a responsibility that extends across our entire community,” she said.

This year's theme, “I’m here to hear”, underscores the fact that you don't need qualifications to discuss mental health with someone. A simple conversation can truly change a life.

Ms Bill said that in order to support someone near you it’s important to be patient and non-judgmental. 

"Offer support with clear boundaries and remember that they’re more than their mental health. Show care, respect, and suggest speaking with a trusted professional.

“Take a friendly yet concerned approach. Show that you are concerned and want to help. Listen actively and validate their feelings, even if you don’t fully understand. 

“If you suspect someone is struggling, asking twice matters. A simple 'Are you sure you're okay?' shows genuine support and a listening ear.

“Talking openly about mental health can reduce the misconceptions and stigma, and can encourage those who are suffering to seek help and find a support network. It's important for caregivers, friends, and loved ones to understand the impact that mental health has on daily life.”

The R U OK initiative echoed through our community with various small gestures from community organisations and local businesses.

Starting the day with a smile

Ray White Port Douglas wanted to highlight the importance of meaningful check-ins with family, friends, and the wider community and did this by running a pop-up coffee shout at Grant Street Kitchen yesterday morning.

The initiative was a surprise/pay forward to customers, a spontaneous act of kindness designed to encourage meaningful conversations and kickstart people’s day with a smile.

Mental health awareness at school

Meanwhile, at St Augustine's Primary School, the nationwide R U OK? Day initiative took centre stage as the school promoted mental health awareness and connections within the school community. 

Students participated in classroom activities, including colouring a special R U OK Day picture, followed by a delightful sausage sizzle and picnic. These events created a welcoming environment for both students and staff, promoting teamwork through friendly staff vs. students challenges.

School staff proudly wore yellow ribbons, symbolising their dedication to mental health support.

Acting Principal, Katrina Miller emphasised the importance of supporting one another's mental well-being. “St Augustine's School is proud to join this movement, promoting empathy, understanding, and kindness.”

Over at Port Douglas State School, the focus was on nurturing positive friendships, kindness, and compassion while encouraging students to lend a helping hand in times of need. 

The school encouraged students to contribute a gold coin donation and dress in something yellow, culminating in a school-wide sausage sizzle to emphasise the significance of coming together to support one another.

Mossman State High School marked RUOK? Day by fostering a sense of community around mental health. 

A vibrant stall offered resources and wristbands, encouraging everyone to ask the important question: "Are you okay?" .

The day emphasised the importance of daily conversations about mental well-being and thanked the Mossman community for its support in making this initiative meaningful.

Every day is “Are you OK Day”

Heather Taylor, Manager at Mossman Support Services, emphasised that every day is an “Are you OK?” day within their organisation.

“Our culture revolves around daily connections and attentiveness to people’s well-being,” she stated. 

“Whether someone stops by for bread, coffee, a program, or to address work-related matters, we make it a point to notice signs and engage in gentle conversations about how they are doing.

“Our services work closely together to provide holistic support, including referrals and assistance for families dealing with complex issues. The Youth Centre offers case management, youth programs, and emergency relief during financial crises.

“Our Community Development Service runs ongoing programs to combat loneliness and empower individuals, while the Lifestyle Support Service offers various ways to connect socially, both individually and through group activities, strengthening our community.

“We ensure that our staff is well-prepared to assist anyone who may not be feeling okay.”

If you or someone you know is in need, here's how to get help: For 24/7 crisis support, dial Lifeline at 13 11 14.  Mossman Port Douglas Counselling Services offers counselling by appointment. Call 0427 807 729 or email [email protected].

To find a local mental health provider in the Douglas Shire click here.

Signs that someone may be experiencing poor mental health

• Seeming 'sad', unhappy or depressed
• Lacking energy
• Loss of interest in day-to-day life
• Quiet or withdrawn
• Negative thoughts
• Feeling anxious or worried
• Low self-esteem
• Sleep disturbance
• Emotional outbursts, sudden mood and behaviour changes
• Feeling guilty or worthless
• Weight or appetite changes, unexplained physical changes, such as weight loss or gain
• Self-harming
• Substance abuse
• Sudden poor academic behaviour or performance
• Changes in social habits, such as withdrawal or avoidance of friends and family

General strategies that you can use to help:

1. Listen without making judgements and concentrate on their needs at that moment
2. Ask them what would help them
3. Reassure and suggest practical information or resources
4. Avoid confrontation
5. Ask if there is someone they would like you to contact

Effective strategies in communication:

• Be mindful of your tone of voice
• Maintain awareness of your body language and nonverbal cues
• Focus on what others say and acknowledge it
• Request and provide feedback/clarify you are understanding their issue
• Focus on the issue, not the person
• Be genuine
• Empathise rather than remain detached
• Be flexible towards others
• Use affirming responses